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Feeling jealous?

Fear of losing what we have to someone else. Jealousy reveals our insecurity about our value and our fear of abandonment or replacement.

The unmet need

Security in our relationships; assurance of our unique value; trust that we will not be replaced or abandoned.

A question to sit with

Is this jealousy responding to real evidence of threat, or to old wounds of being replaced or not chosen? What reassurance do I actually need?

What to do right now

Ask directly for reassurance if needed: "I need to know I'm important to you." If jealousy is about old wounds, work on self-worth. If there's real evidence of betrayal, address it directly.

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