Feeling guilty?
The painful awareness that we have violated our own values or harmed another. Guilt, when appropriate, motivates repair and growth.
The unmet need
The chance to make amends and change our behavior; forgiveness from ourselves and others; integration of the lesson learned.
A question to sit with
What specific action violated my values? What concrete amends can I make, and what must I change going forward?
What to do right now
Name what you did wrong specifically. Make one concrete amend if possible. Then ask yourself: "What do I need to change so this doesn't happen again?" Transform guilt into growth.
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