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Feeling hurt?

The pain of emotional injury, usually from someone we trusted or cared about. Hurt asks to be acknowledged and eventually healed through repair or release.

The unmet need

Validation that our pain matters; acknowledgment from the person who hurt us; clear boundaries to prevent repeated harm.

A question to sit with

Can I name the specific way I was hurt? What would repair look like, and is this person capable of providing it?

What to do right now

Write down exactly how you were hurt. Decide if you need to communicate this or set a boundary. Say to yourself: "My hurt is valid. I deserve to be treated with care." Protect yourself going forward.

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