Feeling surprised?
The disruption of expectation that jolts us into presence. Surprise opens us to updating our understanding of reality, for better or worse.
The unmet need
Time and space to integrate new information; flexibility to adjust our mental models when reality doesn't match our predictions.
A question to sit with
What assumption has been challenged? What might this surprise be teaching me about myself or the world?
What to do right now
Pause and take three slow breaths. Name the surprise out loud: "I did not expect [this]." Ask yourself: "What does this reveal that I hadn't seen before?" Stay curious rather than rushing to conclusions.
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